As the Season of Light is upon us and the new year approaches, I’m keenly aware that many people are entering into the ancient ritual of thinking about, writing, and preparing for their New Year’s Resolutions. Even before we get through the holiday season and open gifts, people are starting to gear up for this annual event.
The stressed and impatient are vowing to find balance next year. Smokers are anxiously getting ready to take their last puffs. And those who want to lose weight are letting themselves splurge through the holidays prepping for the barren land that awaits them January 1st.
These are all worthy goals. And goal setting is a great practice. But just for a minute, consider whether this is the kind of gift you want to be giving yourself?
What is it costing you to be focusing on what needs to be improved every year? What would be possible if you gave yourself the most radical resolution:
To focus on what is right with you and your life instead of what you need to change? What would this season FEEL like if you practiced validating what you’ve done well?
Validation is a gift that grounds you in the strength of who you are and nourishes your wholeness.
What would the world be like if people were focused on their wholeness and not on their "not enoughness?”
This Season of Light, I want to explore and challenge you to gift your self differently.
Instead of focusing on what needs to change…focus on what is good and wonderful about who you are and what your unique gifts are. Grab a piece of paper and answer these three questions:
- What can you say to yourself in the coming days/weeks/year that would feed your inner light and wholeness?
- What have you longed to hear each day as you struggle to keep that bright light within burning strong and steady?
- What might get in the way of you validating yourself in the new year? This is a gift you can give to your self each and every day if you choose.
When we fill our cups with self‐loving validation and celebration of our unique gifts, qualities, and strengths, we bring health, well‐being, and passion to our body and peace to our mind. Our bodies are nourished and sustained from within.
I invite you to enter into this radical gift giving experiment and try a new kind of resolution!
See what happens when you focus on your wholeness and give self‐loving validation to yourself and to others in the coming days/weeks/year. Maybe we can revolutionize gift giving and resolutions to truly create a Season of Light that lasts all year long.
Want some encouraging words to help you believe in your wholeness? Try our Emerging Women podcast with Gabby Bernstein: The Universe Has Your Back.